It’s pretty safe to say that every woman wants something different when it comes to what they find attractive in a man. Research tells us that there are certain universal qualities that high-quality women find highly desirable in a man.
I’ve decided to list these qualities for you so that you can have an idea of what this kind of woman is looking for. These are the qualities that are the basic characteristics of what we might call a “mature man”, which is EXACTLY the kind of man that a worthwhile woman is looking for.
Five Qualities That a Woman Desires in a Man
Self-confidence is basically a feeling of trust in your abilities, qualities, and judgment in any given situation. The most desired quality to have as a man is a courage, and self-confidence is one of the ways in which you communicate to the world your level of courage.
But we often hear a lot of talk about guys having self-confidence, but how do we properly define it in a situation?
Here’s an example…
Let’s say for instance that you’re kind of hopeless when it comes to playing basketball, but you can still remain confident in your demeanor, simply because you don’t place a great deal of emphasis on the outcome of your performance.
The key element to self-confidence is, therefore, an acceptance of the countless consequences of a particular situation, whether they are good or bad. When you refuse to dwell on negative consequences, you can be more self-confident because you’re not worrying about failure or (more accurately) the disapproval of others following potential failure.
With this kind of mental attitude, you are more likely to focus on the actual situation, which means that enjoyment, and success in that situation is also more probable.
The opposite of self-confidence is insecurity, and it’s like a disease; a disease that no woman wants to get infected with.
Think of self-confidence as the act of confiding in yourself. In other words, it’s as if you’re putting trust in yourself to do your best in any given situation, no matter what the outcome may be.
The self-confident man possesses an inner calm and an outer poise that shows in his actions. He is all right with himself and the world around him, and he can get the most out of any moment because he’s learned to control his imagination, and thereby controls his emotional state.
The amount of self-control you possess will lie in your ability to control your emotions and desires, or the expression of them in your behavior, especially in difficult situations. In other words, your level of self-control tends to show itself a lot more when you have to make decisions in the midst of conflict.
This characteristic is extremely attractive to a woman simply because a self-controlled man is one she can’t walk over, control, or manipulate. And yes, the mere fact a woman won’t be able to do that to you makes her want you even more.
Strange isn’t it?
Remaining poised and in control of your emotions in a difficult situation assures a woman of your ability to handle the stresses of life. It illustrates your strength of mind and your resiliency since you won’t be easily swayed by outside events and circumstances.
It shows that you can lead yourself, and therefore you have the potential to lead others.
Sometimes self-control is used interchangeably with self-discipline. But whereas self-discipline may refer to the training that one gives oneself to accomplish a certain task or to adopt a particular pattern of behavior, even if one would rather be doing something else, self-control is how you apply this disciplined behavior in real-life situations.
For example, denying oneself an extravagant pleasure in order to accomplish a more demanding charitable deed is a display of self-discipline.
Thus, self-discipline is the assertion of willpower over more base desires. And virtuous behavior results when your motivations are aligned with your reasoned aims, which is to do what you know is best and to do it gladly. A good woman, the kind that can and will bring more happiness and success into your life greatly appreciates a man of virtue.
You can develop greater self-control by learning to take conscious control of your own emotional states. By becoming more aware of your thoughts, words, and actions you can learn to become the master of your moods and your emotions. This will help you to handle rapid changes in the outside world that take you out of your comfort zone.
Your responses to the things happening around you won’t be based on fear, but they’ll be based on a deeper knowledge of your ability to handle anything. What women love about a man with self-control and self-discipline is that she knows that she can count on him at any time to make the best decision.
If you were to ask any attractive and successful woman who knew what she wanted out of life what qualities she wanted in her ideal mate, one of the top answers would be ambition. These women instinctively know that a man can have all sorts of wonderful qualities that can make for a great relationship, but if he lacks ambition, she knows that he won’t hold her interest for very long.
Ambition is attractive to high-quality women because it communicates that you possess goals, dreams, plans, or some sort of vision for your life that you’re working on bringing about in the future.
It is the desire for personal achievement and using that desire to assert yourself in the world to get what you want. Ambition provides the motivation and determination necessary to achieve goals in life. Ambitious people seek to be the best at what they choose to do for attainment, power, or superiority.
And here’s something I want you to keep in mind:
When a man has an insatiable passion for achieving a worthwhile goal, he becomes much more desirable to the women he wants.
If you’ve ever wondered why many extremely desirable, quality women end up with guys who may not display the outward signs of what we think is a success, just keep in mind that they probably display the inward signs of great success.
A good woman can notice this with unusual ease.
Thus, it’s important to have some kind of ambition and to be working towards some worthwhile goal. This is especially important when trying to find the RIGHT woman for you because she must be willing to share or invest her time and energy in your ambitions.
Only by choosing a woman that is willing to support you (as you support her as well), can you attain durable fulfillment in your life and your relationship.
4. Stimulating Personality
A good woman loves a man who knows how to have fun, how to be friendly, and how to make her laugh. I could have just mentioned that women love a guy who knows a few good jokes since humor is VERY important, but it goes a bit beyond that.
And no, stimulating a woman is not about putting on a show for her or being her personal clown. It’s more about engaging her senses through lingual and non-lingual communication.
To be stimulating is to be fun and friendly. It’s about being warm and engaging in conversation, to be amusing when you need to be, and at times persuasive. It’s all about being interesting enough so that she’s not bored with you in seconds. In fact, to be really stimulating is to have her begging for more of your attention.
If you can do this my friend, you’re in a very, very happy place.
Women love to feel stimulated. It’s no different for humans than it is for other creatures in the animal kingdom. Just watch one of those wildlife documentaries and you’ll see what I mean.
The males of the species are always doing something to arouse interest in the female. They’re always doing something to “stimulate” the female’s interest in order to create a mating opportunity. Showing off an array of feathers, fighting another rival male in front of the herd, or even building an elaborate home complete with threads and colorful garbage (I watch a lot of wildlife documentaries), it’s all to engage the female’s curiosities.
And yes, we men do the exact same thing.
But the stimulating man is more than just “funny”; he’s interesting and friendly as well. He’s somehow managed to fuse together the right amount of charm, wit, and body language that communicates to women that he’s a fun and friendly guy who’s a blast to be around.
Don’t get me wrong here, you don’t have to be the life of the party, but you must be interesting to her. Be interesting and engaging in SOMETHING. Trust me, there are enough women out there with enough interests that you’ll find someone who’s just as fascinated as you are about whatever it is you’re fascinated with.
And sometimes it’s not what you’re fascinated with that matters, it’s all about how you communicate it to others.
5. Unique Abilities or Passionate Interests
Women love it when a man has something in his life that he is either extremely passionate about or incredibly skilled at. Either one will do, as a high-quality woman usually comes with her own set of skills, abilities, and interests that she’ll want to share and develop with her ideal man.
Be passionate about something, or be obsessive with some particular skill or talent you have. It should be something that is unique to you, something in which you have an enormous amount of untapped potential.
If you have a talent for painting for instance, and historical paintings are something you’re extremely passionate about, your ideal woman will be able to share in that passion with you. In fact, it’ll probably be one of the things she finds incredibly sexy about you.
If you’re a business owner and your particular industry is something that you’re incredibly passionate about, the right woman for you will be able to share in that passion and your enthusiasm might be the very thing that draws her into your world.
So you should consider seeking to develop some particular talent of yours since high-quality women love a man with some sort of unique genius. Or you can become quite learned and passionate about something that has the potential to make you stand out from the crowd since your ideal woman will be someone who can share and potentially invest herself in your particular interests.