Keeping Your Girlfriend Interested in 10 Easy Steps

To keep your girlfriend interested in you can be a big challenge some times. 

Getting a lady to date you is just a large portion of the fight; presently you have to keep her intrigued. Make a solid bond by keeping in touch, discussing your relationship, and setting aside a few minutes for simply you two. Put exertion into the relationship and make a point to satisfy her needs. Keep things energizing by attempting new exercises, taking on difficulties together, and being gutsy and unconstrained.

How to keep your girlfriend interested in you: Ten tips to help you keep the mystery alive.

  1. Maintain the “man of mystery” vibe for as long as you can.

 Familiarity can breed contempt (you’ve probably heard that little adage before). What that means is that “too much information” can be a romance killer.

For instance, you may be madly in love, lust, or whatever, but seeing your dirty clothes on the floor or being subjected to your Sunday afternoon NFL habit might be a bit too much early in the relationship. Anything that might end up being a bone of contention later on is best to postpone for as long as you can. Little things like this might not seem like such a big deal, but they are a guaranteed intimacy killer. The goal is to prolong the attraction, not trade it in for resentment.

  1. Use your imagination and try things that are new to both of you.

Coming up with ideas for things to do shouldn’t always fall on one person in the relationship. On the same tack, don’t fall back on the “same old same old”. Try out new places, new activities, experiences that are new to both of you. That way, you will be creating memories together and discovering new things that will help your bond develop on a deeper level. When you try out new things, she will be able to see the wonder in your eyes as much as you can in hers.

There is a certain vulnerability in that, and this is a solid basis for maintaining attraction.

  1. Try a little role-playing.

Who hasn’t wanted to be a completely different person every once in a while? Anybody can go on a vacation – what about a staycation? Make an event of it. Dress yourselves up and step out of your usual comfort zone once in a while. Plan a stay in a fancy hotel in your own city; you won’t be far from home, but you can create a completely different reality where the rest of the world as you know it simply doesn’t exist. Role-playing in a relationship helps to foster trust and connection, which will always amplify the attraction.

  1. Keep your emotions in check.

This may be a difficult one, especially if you fell hard and are head over- heels in love/like/lust with this woman. Many women will be cautious about displaying their true feelings right away. Truth be told, those feelings can change quickly once we’ve gotten to know somebody better. Think of it as a high-stakes poker game. You don’t just lay all your cards on the table right away. You’ve got to play it carefully to be able to get to the big win.

  1. Show, don’t tell.

Talk is just talking. Anybody can talk a good game, but when you can really show somebody what you’re made of, that speaks volumes. For instance, it’s all well and good to talk about what a great cook you are, but why not surprise her with a gourmet meal that you whipped up just for her?

Go about it with a little stealth. Ask the right questions. Find out what she likes, what she doesn’t like, and put together a meal that will blow her mind. Don’t cook? That’s okay. There are probably tons of things about you that she knows nothing about; your secret love of opera, your skill at horseback riding, you get the picture. Maybe there is something that she talks about a lot—a love of wild animals, a passion for live theater—something that you can conjure up on the sly and surprise her with so that she knows you’ve been listening. A trip to an animal sanctuary or tickets to the hottest play in town might paint the right picture, but just talking about it won’t get you anywhere. Action is where it’s at. A man who isn’t afraid to take that leap, especially if it’s outside of his comfort zone, will always be irresistible.

  1. Be vulnerable, be kind.

As a man, you need to be the strong one. Keep your cool, be protective. Be proactive. But there comes a time when you have to break down those defenses and show your softer side. You may be able to come across as if nothing rattles you, but eventually, that’s going to look like you have no heart at all.

Don’t be afraid to show your true colors, whether that’s an innate need to want to rescue stray dogs or a strong desire to change the world. Kindness is sexy, and that’s not just about being kind to her. Being kind in this crazy world is not a weakness, it is a strength that should be nurtured. If you are unkind to others, especially those who appear to be subordinate or weaker, you simply come across as shallow. Without a doubt, this will water down the attraction factor. She might well think, and rightly so, that one day you will treat her that way too.So, be polite to strangers. Be kind. Don’t talk behind people’s backs or speak out of spite or anger. Give people the benefit of the doubt. Do the right thing, even when nobody’s looking, and she will always hold you in the highest regard.

  1. Don’t avoid relationship issues.

Many men tend to stay as far away as possible from issues that they don’t feel like they have any control over. Relationship problems, no matter how trivial they seem, are a sure-fire way to kill any feelings of attraction. Even if you feel out of your depth, like you’re swimming against the tide, lean into that feeling and tackle your issues head-on. Chances are it’s a problem that can be sorted out with some honest discussion. Since most men avoid dealing with relationship problems, this will surely set you apart as a man who is unafraid to face adversity. And that’s downright sexy. Think about the make-up sex you’re going to have and just do it.

  1. Don’t make it all about you.

One thing that you should absolutely not do is make it all about you. So often, a woman will be talking about something and her man will interject with his own experience in a similar situation. This, essentially, turns the conversation around and directs the attention away from her, thus diminishing the sentiment she is trying to convey and leaving her feeling “less than”. As an attraction killer, this is a big one.

Your girlfriend, your partner, the object of your desire, should be the focus of your attention, and that means your undivided attention. Listen, be supportive, and do try to remember what she’s told you. There is nothing worse than being made to feel that your opinions are unimportant or inconsequential – and when you don’t listen, that’s the message you send.

  1. Do not criticize or belittle her dreams.

It’s human nature to mock things we don’t know anything about, but when it comes to your girlfriend, there is nothing worse than being criticized by the one person we care about most in the world. If you genuinely care for her, you want to support her in every way possible, and that means supporting her dreams too. Don’t correct her (especially not in front of others), don’t tell her she doesn’t look great in that dress and don’t laugh when she talks about how much better she can cook than that guy on TV. As her partner, it is your job to make her think she is the most beautiful, talented, funny, and smart woman you have ever laid your eyes on.

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  1. Resist the urge to fix all of her problems.

Men are born “fixers”. Many men think that, with the right approach, any problem can be solved. Sometimes, however, it’s really not your place to fix a situation as much as it is to be a supportive sounding board. You won’t always have the right answer, and an answer is not always the solution. Sometimes, it just takes a little patience, understanding, empathy, and true compassion. Listening is an activity. Cultivate a talent for listening—really listening—and you will always have her attention and devotion.

Listen to what she has to say, process the information, and offer reassurance, not a solution. Be supportive of her challenges, both at work and in her personal life. For instance, if she is having a stressful time at work, make time to let her vent and resist the urge to try to “fix” the situation. Women don’t always want to be fixed, but they do want to be heard. Listen to what she has to say and reassure her that she is strong enough to overcome the challenge.

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