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7 Kinky Things For Your Sexual Activity

Kinky sex and BDSM (bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, and masochism) are often inaccurately represented in popular media. Kinksters are frequently depicted as mentally ill, emotionally unstable, or victimized by abuse, but research continues to confirm that these stereotypes are categorically unfounded. Being kinky is not a diagnosis, and those who enjoy kink play are no more likely to have been abused than those who prefer vanilla (non-kinky) sex. Moreover, kinky sex play is underscored by respect, consent, and care, and kinky relationships often require ongoing communication about desires, boundaries, and fears, which creates openings for a deepened connection.

KINKY PROPS

KINKY PROPS

Kinking up your sex life is a great way to keep the fires burning for years to come, and there is no universal way to practice kink. Kinky sex can be rough, serious, wild, and hard-core, but it can also be playful, gentle, soft and light-hearted. If you’ve ever experimented with blindfolds or played with dominance and submission in the bedroom, kink is probably already on your radar. Whether you’re curious about whips, gags, and riding crops or feathers, leather lingerie, and warming massage oil, kinky props offer the perfect foray into this exciting world of sensual pleasure.

BLINDFOLDS

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Blindfolds are the perfect gateway prop if you want to kink up your sex life. They increase feelings of vulnerability, augment the need for trust (and submission), and force you to focus on your other senses. The sensory deprivation associated with being blindfolded takes your erotic anticipation to a new high as your lover teases, torments, kisses, tickles, or spanks you in all the right places.

GAGS

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Gags range from simple cloth items you stuff in your honey’s mouth to minimize sound to more advanced ball-and-strap contraptions that are higher risk due to their impact on breathing ability. Safety precautions are of paramount importance when using any type of gag, and you will need to develop a safe signal (like two finger taps or a raised hand) to indicate that you want your lover to slow down or stop.

A cloth gag involves a strip of fabric that is tied around your head so that it either covers your mouth and nose (bandit style) or fits in between your teeth to form a cleave gag.

Ring gags are made of plastic or metal and fit inside your mouth to force it agape during sex play.

Ball gags involve a small ball attached to two straps that wrap around the head. Some balls are tapered in the back for comfort and others are perforated to facilitate breathing. Never use a loose ball without straps, as this can create a choking hazard.

A stuff gag (fabric objects like underwear, bras, or stockings) is shoved into your partner’s mouth.

If you choose to use one, be sure to leave some material hanging out to facilitate removal.

If you want to dominate your man, shove your panties in his mouth and demand complete silence as you suck him to the heights of ecstasy.

And if you want to drive her wild, use a ring gag to muffle her screams while you put your fingers, tongue, and a vibrating toy to good use between her legs.

 

CLAMPS

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Clamps are the perfect toy for exploring the hazy pleasure/pain divide. Although you can purchase sex-specific body clamps designed for both physical sensation and aesthetic appeal, you can also use household items like bobby pins and spring-loaded paperclips (with smooth edges) as stand-ins. Try them on your nipples, labia, areolae, scrotum, or penis, proceeding gradually to test your pain thresholds. If you enjoy the sensations, you may want to invest in nipple suckers, vibrating clamps, or bell clamps that warn your lover of every movement.

Once you’ve discussed your boundaries with your lover, use clamps to heighten your kinky experience: Tie him up to a chair and get him all riled up. A wet hand job or blowjob should do the trick! Once he’s highly aroused, apply a loose clamp to his lips and another to his nipple.

His pain threshold will increase as his arousal heightens, so be sure to keep sucking and stroking away as you remind him that you run the show and are going to use his body for your pleasure alone.

 

WHIPS AND FLOGGERS

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Excite the senses in more ways than one! The sound of a whip and the scent of hot leather can spike your arousal before these implements even make contact with your body. Throwing a single tail whip requires instruction and practice, as it can inflict serious pain and injury, so if you want to include whipping in your sexual repertoire, check out how-to workshops and videos available at your local sex-positive store.

Floggers are composed of multiple flat tails of leather or other material attached to a short handle. They are usually shorter and softer than whips and can be applied with care over the upper back, buttocks, and chest.

KINKY OUTFITS

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From leather and lace lingerie to cock harnesses and leather chaps, many kinksters find that dressing up makes the whole experience more fun and erotic. Shopping together (online or in person) helps to build anticipation, and wearing your new props and outfits sets the mood for a fully engaged encounter. If your lover has been asking you to be more assertive in the bedroom, a leather outfit may be just what you need to help you take on a more dominant role. And if you want to play the submissive, some innocent lingerie or younger clothing may help you to slip into this role more naturally and make it all the more convincing.

RESTRAINTS

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Handcuffs, scarves, and ties take any sex act or position to new heights! Start with household items to tie your lover’s hands together while you bend her over and pound her from behind, or tie him to an armchair while you drop to your knees for an unforgettable fellatio session.

Simply the sight or thought of restraints can be enough to tease your lover into a frenzy of desire, so use them to light the spark before you make it to the bedroom. Leave a pair of handcuffs on his driver’s seat before he leaves for work, or place your “special tie” in her panty drawer in the morning as an indication of what you have in store for later in the evening. Who knows! She may even be inspired to greet you at the door wearing nothing but your tie . . .

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Why is sex important and what does ‘to be good in bed’ really mean?

What Is Some Good Advice for Flirting with Girls?

Step by Step Guide On How To Go Down On Her

 

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